Do you know you are perfectly OK just as you are?
Do you know that despite the voices in your head repeatedly telling you, all the things that are wrong with you, or that need changing, you are perfect just as you are?
Right now, You are just where you are supposed to be in this life. How could you be anywhere else?
Yes, I know. Inside your head the voice is saying this cannot be correct because…” I don’t have enough money” “My last lover abandoned me” “I’m alone” “I need to lose weight, get fitter and stop being so angry and pushing people away” ”I’m not nice” “I’m afraid of being rejected again”
Forget all that.
You are perfectly fine just as you are. Yes, there are aspects of your behaviour that do not serve you. Yes, some of your choices could have been different. And, with awareness and love – lots of self-love – these will change and improve over time.
And, you are OK just as you are.
As a workshop junkie, I used to do all sorts of ‘inner work’ to change myself. Then I discovered something quite precious. That at the core of my need to do workshops, was the deep belief something was wrong with me.
So I stopped doing workshops, until my motivation came from a place of self-love instead trying to fix something that was wrong with me.
The poem below has been instrumental in this evolution towards self- acceptance. For myself and the many other people I have shared it with over the years. May it be inspirational for you too.
And always remember, you are perfectly OK, just as you are.
The Rose
When we plant a rose seed in the earth, we notice that it is small.
Yet, we do not criticise it for being ‘rootless and stem-less’.
We treat it as a seed, giving it the water and nourishment required of a seed.
When it first shoots up out of the earth, we do not condemn it as immature and underdeveloped;
nor do we criticise the buds for not being open when they appear.
We stand in wonder at the process-taking place, and give the plant the care it needs at each stage of its development.
The rose is a rose, from the time it is a seed to the time it dies.
Within it, at all times, it contains its whole potential.
It seems to be constantly in the process of change;
Yet at each stage, at each moment, it is perfectly all right as it is.
Timothy Gallwey
